Ochlophobia is the extreme fear of crowds

Ochlophobia

This phobia of crowds has become more prevalent in the last 15 years throughout the western world.

Once, years ago, we could creep to our small corner shop, ask quietly for a few household items, then back to the safety of our homes.

Nowadays with a lot of the small, intimate and friendly stores having been run out of business, we are left with large intimidating shopping malls and out of town huge shopping complexes. Little wonder that if we are intimidated by crowds we will be terrified of huge cavernous buildings with hordes of people rushing around, and so this may drive us to a nervous disposition and so create Ochlophobia.

Add to this the isolated environment in some of our homes where we draw the curtains and sit huddled around our TVs, or even as a motorist, isolated in our cars, with a frenetic life rushing past us.

Take Molly, as I shall call her. At 70 years of age, she came for help as she could no longer tolerate the crowds milling around the checkout and aisles in Tesco’s.  Never a great socialiser, but gradually she withdrew more and more until she had to telephone Tesco for home deliveries as she was terrified of people, so even meeting two or three people sent her into a panic mode.

Eventually, one of her friends who used to meet her for lunch dates suggested she came to my clinic.

I first had to set about restoring her confidence in herself, which meant listening to hypnotic tapes made for her personally. Once she felt a bit safer, she then started to venture out of her house again with her friend at her side.

As her phobia began to lessen and her confidence crept back, she recorded her steady progress on special forms I gave her so she could view the steps forward.

Eventually, under my guidance in hypnosis, she could visualise herself going to checkouts and remaining calm.  She is now completely cured and can go into any shop however large, but better still, socialises regularly at the Brangwyn Hall and the Grand Theatre, and you may know how full that can get.

The essential is to always stay with your therapist until you are “bomb proof”.

Many years ago, one caring husband would accompany his wife through the treatment and all was progressing well as she went from just passing in front of restaurants to actually eating in crowded rooms.  However, her husband decided to test her.  As a “treat”, and before I could stop him, he took her to “Barons Nightclub” but as the doors opened, the hundreds of people, smoke, loud noise, and heat freaked her out into a severe panic and she ran away.

I then had to virtually start again until we achieved total control and then she could regain her old self and party whenever she wished, even in crowded nightclubs.

Moral: “Don’t try to run before you can walk.”

Anthony Wilson Hypnotherapy Wiltshire

Ways to build daily confidence

PRACTICAL WAYS TO DAILY BUILD CONFIDENCE

I Work each day with many clients who wish to bolster their confidence and during this therapeutic time I give them practical tips to assist their progress here are a few to help you on your way,

1 Maintaining good eye contact shows you feel confident and believe in what you’re saying. Body language expert Robert Phipps suggests “hold eye contact around 60-70 percent of the time. By doing this, you won’t make the other person feel self-conscious. Instead, it will make them feel comfortable and relaxed in your company”.

 2 GET JIGGY WITH IT Touching your partner and having sex more often releases feel-good chemicals that boost your self-esteem and sexual confidence. Sexologist Dr Gabrielle Morrissey reveals “sex is a natural mild anti-depressant, it actually revitalises you.

3 SPEAK UP Have fun with words and expand your vocabulary. Reach for that dusty old dictionary and learn a new word every week, then slip it into a conversation. Add words like “love” and “enjoy” to your sentences and this will make you sound like a person bursting with happiness and enthusiasm. Don’t be scared to project your voice either, confident people demand to be heard.

4 LOVE YOUR BODY Do you constantly beat yourself up about your looks?   Motivational consultant Claire Walton advises “observe a friend or even a celebrity who has the same body shape as you but excludes confidence. Watch their body language, eye contact and communication style. Check this against your own style and look to mirror some of their techniques”

5 KNOW YOUR GOALS AT WORK Confidence here comes from knowing what you’re good at and why, according to Suzy Greaves, a career coach from Big Leap Coaching.   “When you appear confident about your skills, you inspire confidence and people promote you”, she says “Write a list of everything you’re good at on PostpIt notes and stick them on your bathroom mirror so you’ll see it before you go to work”.

6 GO SHOPPING   It isn’t called retail therapy for nothing. Pop into a big store like John Lewis, Sports shops, Topshop and Dorothy Perkins to find out about their personal shopper services

7 STAND UP FOR YOURSELF Your posture speaks volumes about your confidence. You never see anyone slouching on the red carpet do you? Work on improving the abdominal and back muscles that surround the core area of the body and walk tall. Niki Wibrow a celebrity personal trainer says “try martial arts, yoga or Pilates”

8 GET YOUR HEAD STRAIGHT Keeping it level when talking to someone makes you see a confident communicator.   Body language expert Robert Phipps says “You can also use this straight head position when you want to be authoritative and what you are saying to be taken seriously” but when you want to be friendly and show that you are listening with interest, tilt your head just a little to one side or another

9 SPEAK YOUR MIND AND OPEN YOUR EARS Listening to what your partner has to say and getting them to listen what YOU have to say helps build confidence in your relationship. Psychotherapist Malcolm Stern suggests “set aside a period of time when you speak without being interrupted. Once you or your partner has finished talking relate back to them what they’ve just said”.

10 FIND YOUR GRAND PASSION Career coach Suzy Greaves explains “You’re naturally good at what you love doing. The more you excel at something, the more confident you become”. But how do you identify your passion? Suzy asks her clients these questions.

  • What was your childhood dream before everyone told you that what you wanted to do was unrealistic?
  • Who did you envy recently and why? Envy is a great tool to tell us what we really want.
  • What are you naturally good at?

What do you love doing that makes time slip by effortlessly while you’re doing it?

Anthony Wilson Hypnotherapy Wiltshire

https://anthonywilsonhypnotherapy.com 

Batrachophobia

Batrachophobia

There are many phobias (over 300) and whilst there are many common fears, some come my way which are rare and interesting.

Take Batrachophobia for instance, the fear of reptiles.  In over 30 years of practice, I have only come across two such phobias.

Marion (fictitious name) came to my Haverfordwest practice in great fear about lizards.  Now you and I know that they do exist.  They are rarely seen and are so small they surely cannot harm us.  However, Marion was terrified of them and this fear inhibited her movements and a planned holiday.

Under hypnosis, I discovered that at the age of five a lizard had jumped onto her bed when she lived in Cuba and she jumped up in fright, and in a traumatised state ran from her bedroom.

From that moment on, she could not sleep alone for the fear of another lizard jumping onto her.  Admittedly, the lizards in Cuba are larger than their British cousins but nevertheless are still harmless.

The problem was that in a lot of countries they are so used to humans that they can be found in many homes in the countryside or towns.

Marion became so paranoid that even returning to Wales she was petrified a gecko, as she called them, would leap out at her.

Using Hypnotherapy I removed all the past fears attached to her first trauma with the lizard and then I had to practise visualisation in hypnosis until she could imagine actually seeing a lizard crawling over her hand.

She was soon due to travel again to Cuba with her new husband and wanted to know if she was cured.  Now, as I do not have a ready supply of lizards, I sent her to Bristol Zoo to visit the reptile cages.  She then reported back that there were no fears and so she went off to Cuba quite happily.

Whilst there, her husband was concerned to see a lizard go behind a picture hanging on the wall, so Marion said, “I will deal with it,” dislodged the lizard and opened the window to allow its escape.  She then said to her husband, “They are quite harmless so don’t worry, I will deal with them in the future.”

A result, and a relieved husband.

Anthony Wilson

Anthony Wilson Hypnotherapy Wiltshire

What is Hypnotherapy

What is Hypnotherapy and equally what it is not?

Perhaps to start, it is easier to say what hypnotherapy is not.

It is not a loss of consciousness but rather a change in awareness as to when we become immersed in a good book or some enjoyable pursuit.

It is not being controlled by another as stage hypnosis may imply. In therapeutic hypnosis, the client is always in control and can end the hypnotic session anytime he/she wants.

It cannot be used to make anyone do anything that they would not morally or ethnically do at any other time.

What does hypnosis feel like? It is the relaxed feeling we get just before falling asleep at night or just as we awaken in the morning. Have you ever dozed off whilst listening to the television or radio, and been half-aware of what is being said but been too comfortable to take much notice?

Therapeutic hypnosis is used to enable the client to achieve harmony in mind, body, and spir[t

The BRITISH MEDICAL ASSOCIATION once described it as a treatment of choice, and Pope Pius X11 said the church is perfectly happy to endorse it providing it is administered by an ethical and professional manner

All our Hypnotherapists are insured, professionally trained and are provided with CPD.

Anthony Wilson,

Anthony

Anthony Wilson Hypnotherapy Wiltshire

Anxiety Blog Post Five

5 Be aware of what you eat

Years ago I coined a phrase—” We become what we eat ” and this is most certainly true when it comes to promoting a healthy mind and body.

Research has shown that those who eat junk foods over a protracted period are likely to sustain digestive problems and mood instability which can lead to unwell feelings and increase anxieties that all is not well in your life. At times of worry and panics, this is the last thing you need.

I am not lecturing you on any specific food but while we can all eat a takeaway from time to time do bear in mind that while the majority have ingredients to attract they can also have a negative effect by overloading with excess additives which can cause health issues. As I write I have just heard of the youth who ate nothing else but a well-known take away and has now lost his sight. Of course, we all will recall what caused the premature demise of the famous pop star years ago.

So if you can limit junk foods and give your body a healthy treat with fruit you enjoy and vegetables each week you will be surprised how your digestion can improve your calmness of mind.

Worried about the cost?  Buy one apple and with what that has cost you compare it to a bag of salted crisps!

Next, I will explain a foolproof way to enhance your health of mind and body.

Anthony Wilson Hypnotherapy Wiltshire

Anxiety Blog Post Four

Make time to exercise.

I’m too busy, I don’t feel too well, I’m tired, it’s too late, the weathers bad. We can always find an excuse.

It isn’t everyone’s favourite subject, but before you’re tempted to gloss over this section, let me tell you how exercise and your confidence are linked. Exercise releases endorphins in the brain and these, in turn, raise your mood, self-esteem, and confidence. Being fir helps us to become happier so you need to find a form of exercise that you enjoy and can fit into your routine. It doesn’t have to be expensive or time-consuming.

It could be anything from taking a walk each day, going on a bike ride or for a swim. Whatever you choose, taking time away from work, especially if it mostly involves being in an office and sitting at a desk, gives you a much-needed break. If you’re not an exercise fan, fit short bursts of exercise into your day by walking up the stairs, gardening, parking your car further away from the office or train station and going for a walk at lunchtime. If you can find a companion to accompany you this will also mitigate anxieties and make the journey more enjoyable.

Following my suggestions, several of my clients have joined the Ramblers with great success to get rid of worries.

A doctor I know has reduced the practice drug bill by prescribing exercise and not medication

It doesn’t matter whether you are a child or octogenarian, an athlete or in a wheelchair, working or retired, pleasurable exercise will improve your health and more likely help you live longer.

However, In particular, you will reduce anxieties and mitigate the effects of panics

How food can help.

Anthony

Accident Proness

How often do you hear people complaining ” I am so accident prone?”

Well, you may like to know you are not alone thinking you will always suffer thus and help is at hand in relaxing more and concentrating deeply through the medium of hypnosis.

I teach all my clients self-hypnosis which enables them to act with forethought, caution, and prudence in any given situation which can lead to mitigating or preventing accidents promptly. Once learned our subconscious is constantly aware of dangers and potential disasters as it is programmed for our survival rather than being a victim.

So why not use the power of your subconscious to guide you safely in the future?

Every session of Hypnotherapy is recorded onto CDs for clients to use whenever they wish and he offers a free initial consultation at his Warminster clinic.

He can be reached on 01373 764828

 

For 30 years Anthony has worked with these conditions

The following is not exhaustive!

Accident proneness, Agoraphobia, Alcoholism, Allergies, Anxiety, Amnesia, Anorexia, Asthma, Bed Wetting, Blushing, Car sickness, Claustrophobia, Compulsions, Confidence lack, Depression, Duodenal Ulcer, Examination nerves, Failure syndrome, Fears, Frigidity, Frustration, Guilt feelings, Habit, Hay Fever, Hysterical paralysis, Impotence, Indecision, Inferiority feelings, Inhibitions, Insomnia, IBS Learning difficulties, Marital problems, Meanness, Memory, Menstrual disorders, Nervous visual defects, Neurasthenia, Neurosis, Nightmares, Overeating, Panic phobias, Paralysis, Psoriasis, Rejection feelings, Seasickness, Shyness, Self consciousness, Smoking, Stagefright, Stammering, Tension, Travel fright, Timidity, Torticollis, Tremor (nerves) Twitching, Warts, Worry and many more Psychosomatic problems

Anthony Wilson was voted one of the top ten Hypnotherapists in Britain

He can be reached on 01373 764828

 

Ways to daily build confidence

I. Maintaining good eye contact shows you feel confident and believe in what you’re saying. Body language expert Robert Phipps suggests “hold eye contact around 60-70 per cent of the time. By doing this, you won’t make the other person feel self-conscious. Instead, it will make them feel comfortable and relaxed in your company”.

2. GET JIGGY WITH IT Touching your partner and having sex more often releases feel-good chemicals which boost your self esteem and sexual confidence. Sexologist Dr Gabrielle Morrissey reveals “sex is a natural mild anti-depressant, it actually revitalises you.”

3. SPEAK UP Have fun with words and expand your vocabulary. Reach for that dusty old dictionary and learn a new word every week, then slip it into a conversation. Add words like “love” and “enjoy” to your sentences and this will make you sound like a person bursting with happiness and enthusiasm. Don’t be scared to project your voice either, confident people demand to be heard.

4. LOVE YOUR BODY Do you constantly beat yourself up about your looks? Motivational consultant Claire Walton advises “observe a friend or even a celebrity who has the same body shape as you but excludes confidence. Watch their body language, eye contact and communication style. Check this against your own style and look to mirror some of their techniques”

5. KNOW YOUR GOALS AT WORK Confidence here comes from knowing what you’re good at and why, according to Suzy Greaves, a career coach from Big Leap Coaching.   “When you appear confident about your skills, you inspire confidence and people promote you”, she says “Write a list of everything you’re good at on PostpIt notes and stick them on your bathroom mirror so you’ll see it before you go to work”.

6. GO SHOPPING   It isn’t called retail therapy for nothing. Pop into a big store like John Lewis, Sports shops, Topshop and Dorothy Perkins to find out about their personal shopper services

7. STAND UP FOR YOURSELF Your posture speaks volumes about your confidence. You never see anyone slouching on the red carpet do you? Work on improving the abdominal and back muscles that surround the core area of the body and walk tall. Niki Wibrow a celebrity personal trainer says “try martial arts, yoga or pilates”

8. GET YOUR HEAD STRAIGHT Keeping it level when talking to someone makes you see a confident communicator.   Body language expert Robert Phipps says “You can also use this straight head position when you want to be authoritative and what you are saying to be taken seriously” but when you want to be friendly and show that you are listening with interest, tilt your head just a little to one side or another.

9. SPEAK YOUR MIND AND OPEN YOUR EARS Listening to what your partner has to say and getting them to listen what YOU have to say helps build confidence in your relationship. Psychotherapist Malcolm Stern suggests “set aside a period of time when you speak without being interrupted. Once you or your partner has finished talking relate back to them what they’ve just said”.

10. FIND YOUR GRAND PASSION Career coach Suzy Greaves explains “ You’re naturally good at what you love doing. The more you excel at something, the more confident you become”. But how do you identify your passion? Suzy asks her clients these questions.

  • What was your childhood dream before everyone told you that what you wanted to do was unrealistic?
  • Who did you envy recently and why? Envy is a great tool to tell us what we really want.
  • What are you naturally good at?

What do you love doing that makes time slip by effortlessly while you’re doing it